When it comes to relationships it seems that everyone is turning to the latest and greatest quick fix method available for $19.95. Have you also notice that in the media every Tom, Dick and Harriet are now claiming to be the relationship experts that can fix your relationship in about 37 minutes, (23 minutes for the commercial sponsorship so you don't get the whole hour).
If you dont believe me, watch a few daytime talk shows and then email me in the evening. Now that I have your attention I will tell you a few things that are not that sexy, but WILL enable you to get your sexy back. How many of you have seen, desired or built your dream garden? That gorgeous garden didnt just appear out of thin air, it had to be planted. When desiring to start your garden; your labor of love that will be the envy of all the neighbors and maybe even the surrounding communities, you must first analyze your soil. This in professional terms is called finding out what you are working with.
What this means to a relationship is simply this; If you are into museums and subtitled foreign films and your mate is into sports and action flicks you might want to look into renting Crouching tigers hidden dragon rather than a French love story & the pro-football hall of fame is a kind of museum right? Knowing this little bit going into the relationship will help you make an informed decision on whether or not this will be for you. Now for those of you that are already married and find out these facts be prepared to start weeding out the things that will be harmful or choke your good tomatoes and kill your rose plants. This simply put means instead of letting harmful hurt feelings and resentment arise; communicate what your expectations are. Remember that you are dealing with the person who loves you and will most likely want to resolve any issue just as much as you do.
Now knowing the soil that you have and removing some weeds doesnt mean that everything will be fantastic it just means that you have started your journey to get your sexy back. You have to fertilize and water your ground for your garden to continue to flourish. When dealing with your mate you need to understand that everyone, even you have fears and shortcomings that they need their wife or husband to love them enough to get past. This means that even if your roses or tomatoes dont bloom exactly when the seed package said they would, you still have to continue to water, fertilize and weed with the expectation of your garden being the best.
I challenge everyone reading this article to cultivate the relationship that they are currently in so that it will become the relationship that you want and desire. The garden next door may be in full bloom and you may think, What would I give to have that? Well keep your mind clean and knees and hands dirty with your soil and the neighbors will be admiring you soon. With all that being said I encourage you to seek God in your marriage, since he is the architect of marriage and knows every design structure imaginable you will never be wrong for following his plan written in the Basic Instruction Before Leaving Earth (Bible). God Bless you,
Dr. Venus Lee is the Author of Hopefully Ever After, In Search of Healing and soon to come, Life or Death. She is the Board game designer of Game Title: Purity for Pulitzer Newsletter Game Board and President of the not for profit Team Outreach Homeward Bound, Inc. an organization for runaway youth ages thirteen to twenty-one. Dr. Lee has been an entrepreneur for well over fifteen years. She is also an ordained minister of Gods word and a lover of romance.
Benjamin Franklin
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